Being Present: Can The Need To Look Good Stop Someone From Being Present?

In today’s world, what is taking place externally is generally given more attention than what is taking place internally. This then means that it can be normal for some people to focus on their appearance and to ignore what is taking place within them.

Point of Focus

Someone can then going to focus on how they look, and they might not even realise that they also have an inner world. However, all the time they are focused on creating the right impression, it is unlikely to be something that they are concerned about.

Through placing their attention on how they look, there is also the chance that this will lead to approval. The people they are close to and the ones they come across may give them positive feedback.


Through receiving this kind of feedback, it is going to cause them to feel good about themselves. Pleasing others is then going to be seen as something that allows them to experience good feelings.

It will then be important for them to maintain the appearance they have; if they don’t, it is likely to have a negative effect on their well-being. What this can mean is that they can only accept themselves when other people do.


If this is the case, someone could end up being obsessed with their appearance, and other areas of their life could then be overlooked. All the time they rely on others people’s feedback to feel good; they are not going to want to neglect their appearance.

When their appearance is not as it should be, they could end up experiencing anxiety, and it is then not going to be possible for them to experience inner peace. But as soon as they receive the feedback they need, they may soon begin to settle down.

Up And Down

During those moments when they receive positive feedback from others, they could feel as though they are on top of the world, and this could be an experience that stays with them for a short while. However, when this doesn’t take place, they could feel down and as though they have no value.

It is then going to be a challenge for them to experience emotional stability, and this is because they could be used to swinging from one side of the emotional spectrum to the other. The pain within them is then going to be something that gives them the motivation to look good.


Another option would be for them to look at why they need other people’s approval in order to accept themselves. This would mean that one would have to face how they feel, and while this is likely to be painful, it would give them the chance to change how they experience life.

If they were able to accept themselves, they would no longer need to be obsessed with their appearance. This is not to say that they would end up going from one extreme to the other and neglect themselves; what it means is that they would be able to embrace other areas of their life.

More Than an Object

It would then be possible for them to see themselves as more than just an object that exists to please others. In the short-term, their life could end up getting worse, and this is because they will be facing themselves as opposed to running away from themselves.

Yet as time passes, they should begin to settle down, and to realise that their value as a human being doesn’t depend on the approval of others. What this shows is that even though one will experience pain, it won’t last forever, and that there is a reason why they are experience this pain.


When one needs the approval of others in order to accept themselves, it is likely to be a sign that they are out of touch with their true-self. The pain that they experience when they face themselves can then relate to their false-self.

There is the chance that one has been out of touch with their true-self since they were younger, and this means that they may believe it is who they are. The pain that they experienced through not having their needs met during these early years can then stay within them, and this pain will need to be processed.

Into The Body

Through processing this pain and getting in touch with their true-self, they will be able to settle into their body. They then won’t need to be stuck in their head, and they can then be present.

However, when one doesn’t process their pain, it can be normal for them to live on the surface of themselves. As a result of this, they can end up living in their head, and their attention is then going to be on other people.

Caught Up

Thus, one is going to be thinking about whether other people accept them or not, and they won’t be able to relax. It is then not going to be possible for them to live in the moment, and there are going to be people who pick up on this.

Some people may find that although one is physically there, it is as if part of them is somewhere else. This is then going to stop one from being able to connect to others, and they could even come across as rude or aloof, for instance.

Missing out

What this shows is how one can miss out on life through being caught up in what they look like. It will be a lot harder for them to experience a deeper connection with others, and this can cause them to experience even more pain.


If one is in a position where they are obsessed with their appearance and it is then a challenge for them to live in the moment, it might be necessary for them to reach out to a therapist and/or a support group. Through their assistance, one can process the pain that is within them.

The Art of Presentation Tip # 1 – Awaken Your Audience

We present to shift the audience’s perspective. We want to sell…we want to educate…we want to motivate.

None of this can happen until you awaken your audience and get their attention.

How to awaken your audience:

o Surprise them.

o Attention is captured by the unusual.

o Do Something Different!

When the audience knows what you are about to say, or how you are about to say it, they’re ahead of you. Gradually their minds move on to something else.

Ways to awaken your audience:

- Catch the audience off guard by sweeping them into active participation.

- Employ a dramatic gesture at an unexpected moment.

- Reveal an interesting prop, or use an object in the room in an usual way.

- Tell a story about an experience you had that reveals something personal about you.

- Move with a sudden dynamic burst.

- Release a sound from your voice heretofore unheard.

- Make a percussive sound by clapping, stomping a foot or hitting your hand on a table.

- Use an unusual facial gesture.

- Tease the audience.

- Stop and be silent.


We communicate with all kinds of gestures. Whether hailing a taxi or blowing a kiss, the meaning of the gesture is understood accurately and quickly.

Actions Speak Louder than Words

Early on we learn that a person’s body often speaks more truthfully than their words. If the speaker’s behavior does not align with their words, which do you trust?

Imagine someone talking to you about an important topic. Imagine how much they would communicate if at just the right moment they:

- Blushed

- Blinked

- Yawned

- Looked away

- Started shaking

Instinctively we know to trust body language above spoken words. People carefully arrange their words to put their best foot forward; less frequently do they successfully monitor their physical behavior.


Often, the most important movement is it’s complete absence: calm, powerful stillness. Unfocused extraneous movement decreases your power and credibility, and can distract the audience from your message.

When you are not making a gesture or movement that supports your missive:

Choose stillness.

When you can confidently stand perfectly still in silence, the audience tends to interpret is as power and control.


Tips to Successful Use of Gestures, Movement and Stillness

Be Selective

Craft gestures to match your key points. Don’t use the same gesture over and over. Avoid walking and talking (or your movements may obscure your words). Larger movements are best done before or after a point, while gestures can be used before, during or after speaking.

Be Specific

Practice more precise and differentiated movement. Don’t just generally wave your arms. Chose dynamic, specific movements and gestures that elucidate or emphasize what you are conveying.

Be Surprising

Use varied rhythms and move at unexpected moments to gain maximum audience alertness. For example, don’t always gesture at the end of a sentence or point.

Be Still

Practice the power of stillness. Don’t fidget. Don’t wander. Don’t rock nervously back and forth. Stillness is extremely powerful, especially when contrasted with purposeful movement.

Be Subversive

Whatever gesture patterns you establish, mindfully break with them and create an ongoing variety of gestural expression.

How to Use Powerpoint Presentations As Coaching Materials

Coaching is needed when we want to develop certain skills in order to accomplish some difficult tasks that require certain experience and skills. It can be done to unleash the potential of the trainees in which they are the assets of an organization. However, Powerpoint presentations for coaching sessions are not properly utilized in which cause trainees unable to perform to the fullest and disengage with the learning system.

Powerpoint is mainly use as an e-learning template during the coaching session. Normally, these presentation slides are converted into Flash format in which contain self-checks, quizzes, tests and surveys and then uploaded into integrated Learning Management System before this online coaching courses are created. These tasks can be done with ease by using rapid e-learning tools.

Let’s us discuss about the Powerpoint ideas on how to improve the efficiency of the e-learning program.

The formality of a company has to be preserved when it comes to introducing the course structure during the employee coaching session. Notice that elegant-looking fonts are used in the presentation slides. Elegant looking fonts are commonly used by Microsoft Office users are Arial, Times New Roman and Century Gothic fonts.

An efficient coaching session only when business coach able to bring a system; a process for assisting them to discover the solutions of specific problems in their respective business areas. It is a part of the feedback process in which involves questioning and clarifying certain problems and issues based on their experiences. Therefore, proper slide layouts are used along with relevant puzzles and quizzes that associates with the objectives of the coaching session.

Expected outcomes from this coaching session:

  • They will be able to realize their job description and what is expected of them.
  • They will be able to clarify their main objectives of their job position.
  • It able to create a stress-free working environment that increases productivity.
  • Related skills are developed with positive mindset that encourages them to act as if they are competent professionals (or become more dynamic person).
  • Problems will be solved within less time and effort – a.k.a. lean solutions.

Wonderful Presents From Cookies by Design

We are all children in soul. Even if we are forty, we will feel really happy when somebody presents us a toy. Of course most of us shy to show this part of their character and that’s why they think it is stupid and don’t like surprises. But very deep in our hart we smile and think “What a nice present”. One person told me once that if you don’t know what to present to your friend, choose according to the rule “the present must be big and useless”. When I follow this advice I feel, that people really like thin present. I want to tell you about one company which produces very unusual things, it is the best present for any occasion and it doesn’t matter how old you are, you will like it. I’m talking about Cookies by Design.

The story of company’s foundation is like a fairy tale. Once upon a time there was a woman who had loved family, good job, nice children. Woman’s name was Gwen Willhite. But something terrible happened and she lost her job. She didn’t know what to do and how to feed her children. She was very upset. She cried several days. One day when she cooked dinner for her children, she decided to make something special. Gwen Willhite cooked very cute cookies in form of smiles from sugar, brown sugar, cinnamon and other ingredients. Then she thought that it is good idea and started to cook and sell cookies of different shapes and tastes to people. This way Cookies by Design was opened in 1983.

Nowadays Cookies by Design has about 175 stores and operates in 115 cities. Its services are very popular. Company produces custom cookie arrangements, classic cookie gift baskets. Also you will be offered cookie cakes, and gourmet cookie bouquets and cookie trays. These trays are filled with delicious hand decorated cookies. All cookies look amazing and very delicious. If you want to surprise somebody, it is the best way. The assortment is huge. It is very easy to search for necessary basket: you can search by occasion, by products, by price. By the way, prices are very affordable. For example Christmas basket costs in average about $30-$40.

This year company has received a law suit from Eat’n Park. Eat’n Park is a bakery, one of competitors of Cookies by Design. This company claimed Cookies by Design to stop producing and selling cookies with smiling faces. Eat’n Park says that they first started production of this type on cookies in 1985. But Crumb Corps, owner of the Cookies by Design said “It is difficult to understand how someone can claim ownership of a simple smile. We have been making people happy with our cookies with a smiling face design since 1983, and we will continue to deliver smiles for years to come.”

Personally I can’t understand how someone can appropriate “smiley-face” shape. It is used everywhere. It brings happiness to people and it doesn’t matter where you have it: on the cookie, on the postcard or key ring.

Presentations – The Single Most Powerful PowerPoint Slide You Can Use

PowerPoint problems run rampant in presentations, from busy, overdone slides that are impossible to read to poor usage where the speaker talks to the slide or blocks the screen. While there are lots of ways to improve slide quality and enhance PowerPoint usage, there is one little known, but powerful, strategy that can improve any PowerPoint presentation and put the focus more on the speaker, where it belongs. 

This wonderful strategy is… the black slide.

Keep in mind, the objective of visuals is to complement what you’re saying, to help the audience understand or remember a point. So it stands to reason that if your visuals are purposeful, then you won’t have a visual up all the time. In fact, you don’t need a visual up to relate an anecdote or have interaction with your audience. Neither is a visual necessary to set the stage or to wrap up or to signal the start of Q&A.

Enter, the black slide. A black slide makes the screen go dark. Wherever you insert one into your PowerPoint presentation, there will be nothing on the screen. This enables you to tell that story or give that example or make that transition without the distraction of purposeless visual. And you now have the focus on you (which is ideally where it should be!).

Don’t know how to create a black slide? Not surprising, since PowerPoint has no vested interest in helping you NOT use a slide! Here are some basic instructions (this is for PowerPoint 2007 — every version is a little different; the key is to find the “Format Background” function):

 -Create a new slide and right-click on it

 -From the options that come up, click on: “Format Background”

 -In the box that comes up, select:

    1. Solid Fill

    2. Hide Background Graphics

    3. Color: Click on the down arrow and select black

 -Click Apply (NOT Apply All!)

Your slide will now be black and when projected in a room, will simply look like there’s nothing on the screen. A great opportunity for the speaker to capture the focus!

There is another trick that will create a dark screen. If, while you’re in “Slide Show” mode, you hit the “B” key on your keyboard, your screen will go dark. When you hit it (or the mouse or the arrow or enter key) again, the visual you had darkened will come back up. (Please note that this feature works only in “Slide Show” mode.) Now, before you get all excited and think, “Great! I’ll just use the ‘B’ key to go to blank in between some of my slides,” let me offer a word of caution.

First of all, the thing about the “B” key is that when you hit it the second time to get out of the black slide, it doesn’t advance to your next slide. The visual you had up before the black slide will reappear. So it’s going to be awkward to have to bring up your previous slide before you can go to your next one. Secondly, what do you think the likelihood is that you’re going to remember to hit the “B” key after certain visuals? It’s risky to rely on your memory. It’s much simpler to just insert a black slide when you don’t want anything on the screen.

Final suggestion, always end on a black slide. This is a nice way to end your presentation-nothing on the screen to distract from you during your close or the Q&A session. I recommend you create one instead of relying on PowerPoint’s version…  You may have noticed it has the tiny type on it that says, “End of slide show. Click to exit.” Not a big deal, but I have seen speakers who, moving in front of the projector with this slide up, had that white type run across their shirt or their face. It can be a little distracting. Leave your black slide there and don’t exit the “Slide Show” mode until you are completely done with your presentation. If you exit Slide Show before you’re done, the audience has to look at the “Slide Sorter View” of your program, which is busy and distracting.

The black slide is the single most powerful slide you can use in PowerPoint. Use it often!

Business Presentations – Handle Questions Like a Pro

Let’s assume that you’ve made your presentation, and it went well. Now it’s time for questions and answers. Let me warn you, this is when the wheels can come off. There’s no script, and no opportunity to prepare, do it well and you’ve put the icing on the cake; waffle for a few minutes with no point and all your practice and preparation has gone to waste. Is there a structure you can use to answer questions? Absolutely, read on to find out how.

About five years ago I was speaking at an event, it was big. Senior members of the government were in the audience so I’d prepared like a mad man. And I did a great job…until it came to take questions. I was bad. On one question I actually took 6 minutes over my answer. Looking back it was agonising, both for me and the audience. I vowed that I would never let that happen again, and found a method of handling questions that provides a concise answer, adds to your credibility by providing evidence, and leaves your audience in no doubt as to your position on the issue at hand.

The method is called “PREP.”

P = Point: as in make your point.

R = Reason: Give the reason why or rationale (underlying principle) behind the point.

E = Example: Provide an example of the point in action.

P = Profit: Tell the audience how they will profit/benefit from taking your advice.

Let me explain with an example. Imagine you’ve just finished a knock ‘em dead presentation on change management and you get asked a question.

Here it is: “Why should we choose your method over your competitors?”

And here’s how you use the structure.

Point: “Our method is the only one that comes with a unique guarantee. We’ll improve your profits by 20% or you don’t pay.”

Reason: “We provide this guarantee because we want to shoulder the risk. After-all, if we really can’t help you then we shouldn’t take one cent from your organisation, don’t you agree?”

Example: “Here’s an example of the guarantee in action. About four months ago we spent 3 days with an organisation who thought they needed our help, we soon identified that their falling profits were due to their out dated I.T. system. As this is not our area of specialism we helped them find a partner who could help and didn’t charge them a fee. Of-course they’ve done other work with us since, and they still talk about our integrity and guarantee on that first job.”

P = “In summary you should choose us because of our guarantee, if you do then you’ll have complete control over the fees in the contract at all times, because if we can’t deliver then you don’t pay.”

There you go a simple four step plan for handing questions that will help you to be totally self assured in any presentation, seminar or meeting. In-fact once you’ve practiced this a few times you might just find yourself eager to get to the question and answer part of the show.

What To Look Out For When Buying Baby A Present

It is this special time of year when parents, grand-parents, aunties, uncles, and friends are looking for the “perfect” present for the baby. Should it be something very special, something unique that is worth keeping until the baby is old enough; or maybe it should be something that gives him the instant urge to play?

Then we may look at the parents: what do they like? What kind of things do they do? Do they love outdoor activities? Do they love to shop? Are they somehow actively engaged in our post-modern, young professional-just-turned-parent lifestyle? Whoever the parents are, their child is part of their lifestyle, and gifts need be chosen accordingly.

Nowadays, there are millions of presents available to buy for our little ones. It is like a needle in a haystack. How can we possibly make it easier for ourselves?

The problem is that a baby present always reflects our emotional choice, because we want to show how much we care, no matter what our relationship is to the child. The perfect present has to be cute, handy, playful, clever, engaging, funny, soft, and so much more. This obviously doesn’t make it any easier! However, there are simple steps to take in order to find the right present for our precious little ones.

Safety First

The first thing to consider is of course health and safety. The manufacturers and the retailers have to comply with strict regulations i.e. they don’t allow loose items hanging from a doll that is made for babies 1year+, so this aspect of toy safety is under control.

Yet, there may be parents who are conscious about their offspring’s health when baby takes everything into his mouth. What was the toy treated with? Are there any residues? Here the manufacturers say that all toys are safe to play with. Toy manufacturers have to comply with the EU regulations.

Go Organic

If you are still anxious about the safety of the toys your children are exposed to, you should consider buying only wooden toys. The manufacturing process is more natural and the substances used are more child friendly. In addition, wooden toys last longer! This is very important if a little toddler becomes particularly attached to a certain toy. It is also nice for parents can keep a toy around for when they have grand children, or simply to show their child what he or she used to play with.

Did you know that toys are not the only way a parent can go organic? We know that the clothes we buy in shops in the UK are safe to buy but what do we know about their production? You know the answer: nothing!

Babies suck their clothes, bedding, toys etc. and about 60% of what is put on their skin will be absorbed. Therefore, if textiles contain chemicals, through their skin, their sucking, higher breathing rate and high metabolism, they take in many chemicals. In addition, their detoxification system is not fully developed so the chemicals are likely to stay in their system causing long term damage which are yet to be proven.

Not knowing how we spend our money is one thing but not knowing what the babies play with is certainly another. We learn more and more about what we actually buy because the consumer has a right to. We now know that about ΒΌ of all global insecticides and 10% of pesticides are used in the conventional cultivation of cotton. Throughout the textile chain, from raw material to the finished product, no less than 8,000 different chemicals are used.

Organic is no eco-modern term anymore. It is exactly what we are and what we want our kids to be. So what shall we look out for when buying a baby present? First of all, what is best for the baby; and secondly, what we like. It does not matter if it is cute or educational; the best present is the one that makes everybody happy.

How to Outsmart Your Competitors Easily by Presenting Your Empowering PowerPoint Presentation

You might need to rely on your laptop or any presentation devices to present your product to your potential clients and hoping that they would buy your idea or the product. However, your competitor would use the similar approach to attract your potential clients and that could affect your sales. Let’s us delve into this situation – where your competitors and you are selling the same product, how could you possibly outsmart your competitor in order to make your clients come after your product?

The answer is likely to be creating empowering PowerPoint (PPT) presentations? Are there any ways to create such presentation if you are in a tight budget? Follow these few steps as follows:

1. Start with simple-looking slide template – Besides using the default slide template, you can choose a simple slide template with plain white or black colored background. By using such colored background, you can insert any types of product pictures and we will discuss more about in the next step.

2. Insert high resolution related product pictures – Your product pictures have to be authentic, clear and nice-looking so that your potential clients would have a good impression on your product. Once you have inserted product pictures into the PPT slides, you can make use of the PPT “Picture Tool” to enhance these pictures – for instance, adding picture shape, borders, effects as well as changing the brightness and contrast of these pictures.

3. Put a label in every product picture – It is pointless that you have inserted product pictures without adding any labeling or description to PPT slides. Therefore, you need to add a few text boxes so that you can put in a few short texts to your PPT slides. In addition, make sure that you using the right font and font size – personally, I would use the default font, Calibri, Arial or Century Gothic, and at least font size 32.

4. Use slide transition to enhance your PPT presentation – PowerPoint 2010 has a few interactive slide transitions that you can actually play with. If you are using the older version – i.e. PPT 2007 or older, you can add-in the typical slide transition and other custom animations. Please take note that it is not necessary that you add-in custom animations in every slide or text.

5. Always create one “business card” slide and show it at the end of the presentation – Create a simple “business card” slide by adding your own professional portrait photo and your company contact details instead of putting “Thank you” slide before you wrap up your meeting with your potential client.

Hope that these above mentioned tips would be able to boost your product sales this year. Good luck!

Public Speaking Anxiety – 5 Things to Ensure When Delivering Your Presentation

Delivering an exciting content filled presentation to an enthusiastic audience will fail in its purpose if the audience miss the important points of your delivery.

Delivery of your presentation requires you to address 5 important points before and during the presentation.

1. The audience must be able to hear you. If you are using a microphone check it before the audience arrive. Many fail to work when required or suffer irritating feed back. Your pre-address preparations includes checking equipment. If you are speaking without amplification ensure that everyone in the room can hear you. The easiest way is to ask them. This will also help you with any anxiety you have as it breaks the ice and shows you care about them hearing you. You have also made audience contact without starting your delivery.

2. If you are using any equipment make sure it works. Check everything at least twice and have some sort of back up plan if it fails while using it.

3. Dress comfortably. Your presentation will not be smooth if you do not feel comfortable. This includes being smart or appropriately dressed for your audience. If you like a table or lectern to speak from or by. Make sure you get one. You will be speaking for some time. The room may be hot or stuffy. Ensure you have water to hand to keep your throat from drying and the resultant loss of voice.

4. Watch the audience. By observing the responses of the audience you will get a feel for how your presentation is going. Nodding heads of approval is very different from nodding heads of sleepiness. Watch the audience and keep them interested by changing your delivery accordingly.

5. This is the most important point. The audience must be able to hear you. If you do not stop talking your audience will not hear what you are saying. If this article had no punctuation and was one continuous sentence your understanding of it would be poor. If you do not stop talking in your presentation your audiences understanding will be poor. Speak in phrases or sentences followed by a short break. This does not mean speak in a stuttering way. Your speech should be natural but allow time for the audience to hear your words or your address will be of no value to them at all.

Delivering a presentation is similar to any task you do. With careful preparation and observation any tasks will be executed with few mishaps. Delivering a presentation is no different to any other task. Be in control of your presentation, prepare and claim your presentation as your own by following these 5 simple steps.

Five Minute Presentations – Make Them Work For You

Every few years companies take action to recover from the worst excesses of previous years. They call it downsizing. Thousands of people loose their jobs because management suddenly realize they aren’t productive enough and costs are too high. However, in the past, management of these companies have avoided tackling internal sources of waste – like meeting and presentations. These have continued to eat away at their profits. Perhaps it’s due to the upcoming economic uncertainty that this is now beginning to change. Managers around the world are starting to limit the maximum time for presentations to five minutes. They hope that this will result in a significant increase in productivity and may also save some jobs.

The advantages of the five-minute presentation are obvious. Instead of tying up a dozen or more employees for over an hour they can all be back at their desks in under 10 minutes.

There’s also a second, more subtle, benefit. If a presenter wants to make her case she has to prepare it properly beforehand. The audience will get a more focused argument since there is no time for irrelevant explanations. That means that they’re more likely to understand and remember the key points and make better decisions.

Of course there are also some disadvantages to the five-minute presentation. Since there’s little time for questions or discussion it’s possible that some decisions will be taken without full consideration of all the possible pitfalls.

So how can you get the most out of this situation? How can you develop and present successful five-minute presentations that will always achieve their objectives?

You should begin your preparation for every five-minute presentation by asking two questions:

  • what do you want to get from the audience ?
  • what do the audience get from you?

The answers to these questions will help you identify the key points you need to raise during the presentation.

Now let’s look at the timing of the presentation. You’ll need one minute to introduce your topic and explain how the audience are going to benefit from it. You’ll need another minute at the end of the presentation to summarize your arguments and remind the audience – again – of your key points.

You have only three minutes left for the main body of your argument and that means you can only present three key points – at most. You’ll need to explain those points in just less than a minute each.

If you think you can’t do that then you’ll need to reduce the number of points. It’s better to have a single key point and explain it properly then do a bad job explaining three.

The five-minute presentation will be a challenge at first. The answer is to prepare carefully using the simple guidelines above. The hardest part will be the need to limit the number of points – but this requirement is actually a good thing because it’ll make it easier to persuade the audience.